The Jezebel Infection, part B

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Last week, I shared that the Jezebel infection was in woman long before Jezebel the person ever existed. We looked at Eve. This week we will look at the Jezebel infection in Sarah.

Jezebel “Helps” Her Husband

1 Kings 21:5-7

His wife Jezebel came in and asked him, “Why are you so sullen? Why won’t you eat?”

He answered her, “Because I said to Naboth the Jezreelite, ‘Sell me your vineyard; or if you prefer, I will give you another vineyard in its place.’ But he said, ‘I will not give you my vineyard.’ ”

Jezebel his wife said, “Is this how you act as king over Israel? Get up and eat! Cheer up. I’ll get you the vineyard of Naboth the Jezreelite.”

Jezebel was not a child of God, however, she still desired to help her husband…even if it was for selfish reasons. She wanted to be his all in all. She did not want him to serve the Lord.

Sarai (Sarah) “Helps” Her Husband

Genesis 16:1-5

Now Sarai, Abram’s wife, had borne him no children. But she had an Egyptian maidservant named Hagar;

so she said to Abram, “The LORD has kept me from having children. Go, sleep with my maidservant; perhaps I can build a family through her.” Abram agreed to what Sarai said.

So after Abram had been living in Canaan ten years, Sarai his wife took her Egyptian maidservant Hagar and gave her to her husband to be his wife.

He slept with Hagar, and she conceived. When she knew she was pregnant, she began to despise her mistress.

Then Sarai said to Abram, “You are responsible for the wrong I am suffering. I put my servant in your arms, and now that she knows she is pregnant, she despises me. May the LORD judge between you and me.”

Sarai encouraged her husband to sleep with Hagar out of a desire to “help” him have what she could not give. It amazes me that Abram forgot all about the promise God just gave him in chapter 15. God already told Abram that he would have children. Unfortunately, we influence our husbands even to the point of forgetting what the Lord has said! The funniest part is that even Sarai knew she did wrong!!

Ladies, we need to demolish this Jezebel infection before it ever takes root!

We do not need to ever take matters into our own hands…even if it is to “help” our husbands. We need to trust God more and ALLOW Him to work in our husband’s lives!

I learned this the hard way in my marriage. I became the junior Holy Spirit for my husband’s walk. What I thought was “encouraging” his spiritual life became a thorn in our marriage, and ultimately drew him AWAY from God.

It wasn’t until I let go of him and COMPLETELY put him in God’s VERY capable hands that things began to change…for the better.

Let me tell you, it was a long journey. All of my “helping” made the process MUCH longer than it needed to be. I had to…and still do medicate my Jezebel infection with the Word.

Now, my husband DESIRES the things of God. He wants ALL that God wants for him. He SEEKS God on his own…with NO help or prodding from me! LOL! Who would have though??
Without my interference, my husband had the room to develop his OWN relationship with the Lord, and the Lord was able to work in Him when I finally allowed Him to take the wheel!

This concept works for ALL matters in our relationship with our husbands. We need to stop interfering and trying to “make” things happen and trust God with the keys! Let God have control. Let God do HIS will. Trust me, He will do a MUCH better job then we ever could!

Remember the symptoms of the Jezebel infection?

• controlling
• uses whatever methods that work to get what she wants
• disobeys God
• manipulative
• selfish and fleshly
• bitter and angry

They are the complete opposite of a life completely consecrated to God and walking in love and obedience to the Word.

When the infection begins to crawl its way into your life, rebuke it and overcome the sickness with the Truth of God’s Word. You may not always get what you want. Your husband may not…no WILL NOT ever be all that you need…that’s what Daddy God is for. To fill in the gaps!

Do not misunderstand. We ARE called to be help meets to our husbands. However, when it is only to serve our own purpose, get what we want, not lined up with the Word, or manipulation, it is NOT helping in the way God has called us. It is an full blown attack of the Jezebel infection!

Let’s Pray;

Daddy God, help me to let YOU deal with my husband. Please teach me how to NOT help him, except in ways that please you.I want to be all that You created me to be as a wife. Please help me to overcome this Jezebel infection as soon as it begins to show symptoms. I want to be a light in my husband’s life. I want to only help in ways that bring glory to Your Name. Thank You for Your Love, patience, mercy, and acceptance. I love You, Daddy. In Jesus Mighty Name, Amen.

Your Homework:

Do a self examination. Are you showing signs of the Jezebel infection? If you are, pull out your antidote, the Word, and speak it out of you!

Also, read and study the following Scriptures:

• Psalm 62:5
• Psalm 141:4
• Proverbs 22:17
• Proverbs 31:26
• John 13:34
• 1 Peter 4:8
• Ephesians 4:2
• James 4:7

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