The Woopie Factor, Lesson A

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Yes, I am going to talk about sex. LOL! We will be talking about el woopie for 3 lessons.

Let’s go back to the beginning. Before sin entered the picture. Do you believe it? Sex came before sin. Oh, yes it did!

So God created man in His own image, in the image and likeness of God He created him; male and female He created them.

And God blessed them and said to them, Be fruitful, multiply, and fill the earth… - Genesis 1:27-28a

There are two words in this Scriptures that I want to talk about. Fruitful and Multiply. I’m sure we all understand their meanings…but let’s look at the original Hebrew words and meanings anyway…

Fruitful – parah ( paw-raw’): bring forth, increase
Multiply – rabah (raw-baw’): continue, enlarge, increase, have more in number.

Obviously, the only way for this to happen is to have sex.

God created sex. He created it to procreate, and for us to enjoy…WITHIN marriage, of course. Do you honestly think that Adam and Eve didn’t enjoy it? I’m sure they did. It was paradise, after all…

Sex became problematic when sin came into the world.

In today’s world, sex is everywhere. People have it with multiple partners, same sex partners, they watch others have it, they look at pornographic pictures to help them enjoy it, the list goes on…It has become perverse.

God never intended it to be what it has become. It’s plastered everywhere. Sex is even used to sell common household items. Have you seen the commercials on television? Sex is used to sell soda, hair products, cars, you name it…sex sells it! It’s unbelievable. Every where you look; TV, magazines, billboards, etc. There are scantily dressed women and bare chested men.

I remember awhile back, I had to take my husband to work because his car was in the shop. Just before you get to the street his job is on, there is a VERY large plasma type television screen/sign set up out side a “men’s club.” Images of scantily clad women in suggestive poses flash across the screen. I was shocked. I couldn’t believe that was even legal. I asked him if he looks at it every day, and he said; “it’s hard not to.” Yikes! He’s right. You can’t even walk into a convenience store these days. It’s put right in your face…whether you want it there or not!

For a Christian, sex is meant to be a blessing within marriage. That is how God designed it. It should be a wonderful part of the marriage relationship. Unfortunately, it is very hard to live in such a sensual world and be content sexually within the marriage. It is so “unnatural” to the sinful world we live in. Jokes are even made that sex ends when you get married. In reality marriage is where sex should BEGIN!

Let’s step away from the battle men face and talk about how all these sensual visuals affect us as women. Yes, Christian women lust. Many of them. Women are just as vulnerable to lust as men.

I find it amusing that many Christian women have a double standard. They get bent out of shape when hubby watches something with an under dressed woman. Yet, they have no problem watching some hot guy with his chest bared. Then turn around and chat about the guy with another “Christian” woman.

Yes, you read that right. I am sure several reading this knows exactly what I mean. Including myself. I have been drawn into this in the past…

My wake up call was when a church leader encouraged me to see the movie Troy. She told me how hot Brad Pitt’s bare butt was…I was shocked to say the least…I couldn’t believe that someone in her position…and MARRIED…would talk that way. It made me question everything…my thought life, how I wanted others to see me, and what I allow myself to watch.

I said all of this so that you understand that sex was never to be that way. Lust for another was never part of the plan. It was created to be a beautiful thing….

How do we counteract the culture? Good question. We’ll get into that next time.

By the way, I asked my husband if he could please find a way to not look at that sign. I did not nag. I simply told him how it made me feel and that I hated that he saw those women every day…twice! He listened and recently told me that he no longer takes that way to work.

Hey, it’s a small victory…but it is still a VICTORY! For him and his thought life AND for our marriage.

Let’s pray,

Daddy God, thank You for marriage. Thank You for creating sex and for the pleasure that it is meant to bring. Help me with my own thought life and what I allow myself to see. Help my husband to learn how to guard his eyes as well. Help me to understand Your perfect design for marriage and sex. Show me what You wanted sex to be for my marriage. Help me to open my mind and spirit to Your ways. If I have sin in my heart in regards to sex, I ask You to show me and cleanse me. Thank You, Lord. In Jesus Mighty Name, Amen.

Your Homework:

Sex is one of the most important parts of a happy and healthy marriage…especially for your husband! Your assignment this week…and over the next few lessons…is to read and study the Song of Solomon. It is a Biblical romance novel. I believe that it shows the beauty of what God designed a marriage to be and all that comes with it sexually.

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