Why didn’t Mom tell me how bad this thing called menopause could get?! Hmm…probably because she went through the process of it relevantly smooth. Mom just had a few bad headaches, (to my recollection). And she had her last cycle at the age of 44. Well of course, I thought I would follow suit and inherit her good fortune. Wrong!!
I did however put an end to my heavy cycles since my OB/GYN performed the oblation. And thank God for small favors!! Since the beginning of March, I am cycle free. Yeah! But wait, it’s not all coming up roses for me now, far from it! I’m experiencing the effects of menopause in the worst way.
The hot flashes I can handle. Don’t get me wrong; they are NOT fun. LOL. However, it’s the depression and anxiety that I’m having major issues with. Some days it’s hard to just get out of bed, and there are those days that I get up early, do my workout, and feel awesome afterwards, and usually my days go (for the most part) well. Today is a bad day. As I woke up, I did not get up and workout. Instead I walked straight across from my bedroom to my office.
I’m finding myself praying a lot more than I usually do now, due to desperation more than anything. And that of course is certainly not a bad thing. We all need to pray, especially in these days and times. :)
I haven’t dusted my Bible off in a good while. :( However, recently I’ve been opening my Bible to whatever page it takes me to. And today, I opened it up to Proverbs 1- Verse 6 – 16
The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge: but fools despise wisdom and instruction.
My son, hear the instruction of thy father, and forsake not the law of thy mother:
For they shall be an ornament of grace unto thy head, and chains about thy neck.
My son, if sinners entice thee, consent thou not.
If they say, Come with us, let us lay wait for blood, let us lurk privily for the innocent without cause.
Let us swallow them up alive as the grave; and whole, as those that go down into the pit.
We shall find all precious substance, we shall fill our houses with spoil.
Cast in thy lot among us; let us all have one purse.
My son, walk not thou in the way with them; refrain thy foot from their path.
For their feet run to evil, and make haste to shed blood.
I think I know what this means. You see, I was close to God before I got married. Then I slowly slipped through the cracks and stopped going to church, and yes…reading my Bible. I’ve always prayed, but it’s been less and less over the years. I did marry someone that did not attend church. However, he said he would start going “someday.” It’s been 30 years (next year) that we’ve been married, and that day has yet to come.
Through menopause, maybe God has let this depression come upon me so that I would start to pray diligently again AND read my Bible. I do believe that everything happens for a reason. And God does indeed work in mysterious ways! I’ve always believed in God, and I’ve always prayed; it’s just been less the last few years. My mom taught me well and brought me up in a Pentecostal church. Actually, it was both Pentecostal and Assembly of God. My grandfather was a pastor with the latter.
I know I will get through this. It’s just been a lonely journey so far. I realize that there has to be many more women that are going through the same thing. Hormones can do some scary things to your body.
One more thing. I’ve been sitting here and thinking, (and not working) as I type this post; what I need to do more than anything is ask my God to forgive me for all things. Everything that’s been thought, said, and done in my somewhat colorful past.
Psalms : 66:18: If I regard iniquity in my heart, the Lord will not hear me.
Psalms : 44:21: Shall not God search this out? For he knoweth the secrets of the heart.
I sure didn’t mean for this post to be a sermon type post! lol Actually I had started out writing this article for my Grandparenting blog and intended on posting it in the Healthy Lifestyle section. As the post started to change gears, I thought it would be more fitting for Moms of Faith here.
Anyone else out there going through some bad phases of Menopause? Please Share. ;)
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Hi I am also going thru a horrific menopause phase.. I am so anxious and angry..I rage and get hysterical..I am so aggressive..I yell when frustrated..I feel so stressed and depressed..the spirit of heaviness and anger i feel everyday..I am 48 years old single mom with 2 boys ages 20 and 18 and I am a lawyer..going to work and actually working is a pain…my memory loss is worse its like i have lapses or short term amnesia..i do things but cant remember them its like my memory does not save and store them..i get easily frustrated and irritated…my OB says i cant do HRT unless I do breast mammogram and I am so scared to do it i think i have breast cancer…i lash out on my secretary my assistand and even my boys and other people when im frustrated only to regret it it is scary and frustrating i feel exhausted and sad
I’m sorry for you. Thank you for sharing as I too face the same symptoms and reactions to others. I pray this issue is resolved for us and yet learn from it. Wish I could pray away our issues!
hi my name analisa i think i am going through the changr started last december 2 weks before my 47 birthday it started with anziety and panic since then i have had bad indigestion, aching body, intense anziety really intense,depression did a coiple of test chest xray ,blood test twice,six ekg in six month ,stress test,diabetes test aslo a pelvic ednoviginal and pap smear every thing came back nomal wht do i feel this way doing hrt but no working gyno said my anziety sobad it not making it work taking kalms for anziert because had a bad experience with paxil ifanyone has any ideas what i could try herb wise would be greatfull
well I just have been hrt for 6 months my muscles are aching and super tight throughout the day. my anxiety is what my gyno says may be my problem causing the continued pain. I pray all throughout the day. He is having me tested by neurologist next month for ruling out multiple schlerosis or any other neuro diseases, I do feel it’s nerve related. I hope thats all but it’s getting hard to make it through work everyday. and the fatigue gets bad too. hopefully this month in may I will get my answer from Jesus and it’s all just menopause and those simptoms will go away soon, I would like to get off the hrt as well. I pray
Cohash tea (you can drink hot or cold) for hot flashes and Vitamin E
Hi all and I came across this site searching for prayers and support during menopause . I am Christian but not a Mom. I am also going through awful hormonal changes . I am still in perimenopause at age 55 and still no stop in my cycles but the mental changes are incredible! Had a few bouts of this since I was 45 and it came and went but now the symptoms are constant . Never thought it would be like this ! I can’t think straight , have dizziness, thick brain fog, tinnitus, dry eyes , dry mouth , dry skin, dry everything! , back aches balance issues, anxiety , panic attackss, and I’m sure it’s bouts of depression , even though I don’t feel depressed. Just started a new job and that’s a challenge in itself normally but when you can’t think straight , it’s a nightmare! .Started keeping my diet clean , healthy , no processed anything , no sugar or the chocolate I crave for that caffeine jump start with hopes I can feel better and lose some of this belly weight I’ve been packing on so easily . I pray God will not make this season of my life last too long or make me suffer too long with this. I have aging parents , one with dementia, and a job that I need to hold onto for a few more years at least ! Prayers for all you other lovely ladies who are suffering so much with all this ! We need to start a Christian women’s menopause support group !!!
Hi Gina
I am up very late looking for prayers through menopause. I am 52. No biological children. Officially menopausal since last November. Happily married. My mother passed away almost a year ago and I was her care giver. I don’t mind going through menopause. I just wish God didn’t give me any of the symptoms especially being married. Ugh!!
I was,on HRT for a while but decided to stop because of the side effects. So the symptoms returned. I’ve been searching for natural alternatives but haven’t found the right combination that will work for me….yet. I don’t particularly like taking pills so that is another challenge.
As I am typing and the fact that I am seeking spiritual guidance for dealing with menopause at 4am, I believe God is reminding me that I don’t have all the answers but I serve the one who does. If I bring my cares to him including menopause to him only He can direct me on what to do. I’ve been going about it all wrong! What a blessing to receive this revelation.
Ok-going into prayer about this. Praying that God gives you what you need to go through this in victory.
Oh! Gina, Thank you for sharing. God Bless you, I’m having same symtoms. The dizziness & light headyness scared me a little its not bad, feels like you do with congestion with a cold but no cold, only happened a few times on seperate nights and only breif, I have hashimotos a thyroid thing so I thought maybe thats why I’m feeling so bad but I’m finding alot of us same symtems. Dear God so glad to have found this, not that I would want another living soul to go thru this, but am so glad to know I’m not alone or losing my mind. I pray alot, have to ask for strength and forgiveness most days because of my thoughts and words. Going to my family dr. For re check, for Ambien has helped alot for sleep. Ask gyno. For hrt cream test/progest they gave so glad I only used 1/2 the amount of cream. The testosterone made me feel iggy, no didn’t need that stopped after 2days which the pharmacist agreed am on 1mg. Clonazepam for anxiety because on small dose of pain meds. From 2 car accidents 15yrs. Ago worked til couldn’t. Please could you share if you’ve found anything that’s helped u I know we ate all different, I tried estraven maybe didn’t take long enough, hate taking anymore pills.
Hi Everyone,
I think this is an older post as I’m writing in April 2018. I was searching for some christian help with this as have been struggling so much with the emotional trauma of menopause – depression and feeling like I want to rip things apart (usually a good time to jog or exercise!)
I have found a book ‘Jump off the Hormone Swing’ by Lorraine Pintus. I read a sample on my kindle and think I need the book!
I hope you are all doing better a year on. Keep seeking God and confessing who you are in Him. God never uses sickness to teach us things, He loves us.
love to you all,
Joanna (England, UK)
I am 45 & have been living through some of the most difficult months of my life, since December, with panic & anxiety. Numerous doctor’s appointments, blood work, pap smear, etc. Everything checks out ok. Am taking Zoloft (actually sertalin 100 mg) Was doing better for a few weeks, now I feel like I’m going back. Missed a period, then had 2 very light ones. I wake up sweating, having brain fog, aching, tingling muscles, racing thoughts, etc. Could really use some encouragement & prayer. God bless you all. I know God is in control & I love Him with all my heart. He has brought me through so much & I give Him all the glory.
If possible, I would love to talk with other women going through this. It makes you feel so alone & desperate to hear from others who have gone through this. If I can include my email it’s : amybozeman@rocketmail.com
Praying for His healing hand upon you to release your pain and symptoms.
I found that even though it’s tough, aby kind of daily exercise helps with some if not all symptoms.
Hope you feel better very soon! (Hoping we all do, and praying for each other)