We need to use our mouths to BLESS our husbands. The word is VERY clear about the power that our tongues hold.
Now the Lord God said, It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a help meet suitable, adapted, complementary for him.~ Genesis 2:18
This week’s lesson is “Honoring Our husbands with Our Mouth.”
Pleasant words are as a honeycomb, sweet to the mind and healing to the body. ~ Proverbs 16:24
Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and they who indulge in it shall eat the fruit of it for death or life. ~ Proverbs 18:21
For by your words you will be justified and acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned and sentenced. ~ Matthew 12:37
We have a very important position in our husbands life. We are their Help Meet. We were created to help them and be a blessing to them. Our mouths play a big role in this job.
We should not say things like:
- You never
- I hate you
- Your a slob
- Why won’t you just…
- I don’t care
- I want a divorce
- You better…or I won’t
We should not treat our husbands like they are our children either.
And, a VERY big NO NO is what we say to others about our husbands…in and out of their presence. We should ALWAYS speak life. We do not need to tell everyone what a rotten husband we have and try to get sympathy for “ALL that we go through.” Boo Hoo.
Let me be frank…shut it! Seriously. Do not even open your mouth to speak negatively about your husband. The ONLY time that this is appropriate is when we are speaking directly to Daddy God or a counselor…and even with the counselor, we should be as respectful as possible. However, let it all hang out with Daddy! That is what He wants. He wants us to give it to Him…and LEAVE it with Him!
We need to take the time to speak LIFE TO them.
Ways to EDIFY our Husbands directly (things to say TO them)
- You are an awesome husband
- Thank you for all that you do
- what can I do for YOU
- You are very handsome
- I appreciate you
- I love you
- I want you
- You are a wonderful Father
I am sure if you take the time you can add a LOT to this list. Some of you may not feel ANY of these things. you will need to SPEAK them by FAITH!
Ways to EDIFY our Husbands Indirectly (things we say to others)
- I have the best husband
- I have no complaints
- He is a great Dad
- He did this the other day (something positive)
- My husband is a good provider
- I am thankful for my husband because
We need to SPEAK life to them and about them. We may need to speak it to ourselves as well. We must stop focusing on what they do not do and focus on the positives. YES, there are positives. You just need to look for them. Especially if you have spent long periods of time dwelling on his negatives. It will require MORE effort!
She comforts, encourages, and does him only good as long as there is life within her. ~ Proverbs 31:12
Remember last lesson?
Help Meet azar (aw-zar’) and ezer (ay’zer) and means; surround, protect, or aid. Cooperate with, serve, side with, go to bat for, save, snatch from danger, make healthy, balm, aid.
On the flip side, meaning the opposite; hinder, obstruct, hold back, block, frustrate, side against, discourage, harm, hurt, injure, kill, let die, make worse.
Whether we like it or not, we have the power to make or break our husbands.
If you want a husband who is a good spiritual leader, take it to Daddy. Then, begin to SPEAK life over him. Speak it out into the spiritual realm…OUT LOUD. Pray some more. Be willing to wait no matter how long it takes. If it never happens, at least at the end of your life when you give an account as to the words you spoke, you can stand!
This is the same for ANY of the character traits we want from our husbands. Take it to Daddy. SPEAK it our loud. Speak LIFE. Pray some more. Wait.
Daddy God, thank You for Your Word. Thank You for the LIFE that it speaks to me. Help me to honor my husband with my mouth. Help my words be a blessing to him. Help me to use my words to glorify You. Teach me what to say and what not to say. Help me to recognize when I am speaking death into my husbands life. Lord, I want to be the wife, the Help Meet that You created me to be for MY husband. I want to be a blessing in his life. I need You to help me. I cannot do it on my own. Show me. Thank You, Daddy. I love You. Praise You. Thank YOU! In Jesus Mighty Name, Amen.
– Look up Scriptures on the tongue and words.
– Find ways to speak life over your husband this week.
– Read and Study the Following Scriptures.
- Proverbs 15:1-4
- James 3:1-10
- James 4:7
- Titus 3:2
- Hebrews 4:12-16
- 2 Peter 3:18
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