This week we will talk more about the ACT of submitting. Let’s begin with two core Scriptures.
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. ~ Ephesians 5:22-24 (KJV)
Wives, be subject to your husbands [subordinate and adapt yourselves to them], as is right and fitting and your proper duty in the Lord. ~ Colossians 3:18
Let’s look at the word submit in this passage, in it’s original Greek. It is almost the same as last week’s “submissive,” yet different enough to look at on it’s own.
Submit (hupotasso or hupatatto) – to be under obedience, submit self unto, to place in an orderly fashion.
The opposite of this word in Greek is anti and means; against.
Just what does all this mean? Simply put, we are to obey our husbands! Now for many of you…and me as well on some levels…that makes you mad. LOL!
However, it really is not as bad as it sounds. We learned last week that God designed different roles for the husband and wife. We are learning what OUR role is as a wife. Our GOD GIVEN role.
What does obey really mean?
The dictionary meaning is; to comply with the wishes, instructions, or commands of. To follow. To submit or conform to. Respect. Yield to.
On the flip side; disobey, defy, revolt, rebel, mutiny, resist, refuse, be insubordinate.
WHO are we really rebelling against when we dig our heels into the ground and refuse to submit to our husbands? The answer my dear sisters is GOD. He is the One Who has told us what we should do. So, when we are in rebellion with what He says, we are disobeying Him, and we will be unhappy, and unfulfilled. When we are not lined up properly, we will NEVER have a truly happy and fulfilling marriage. Not on the wondrous level that God created it to be.
How do we obey? How does this play out in my life as a wife?
Before I begin, please understand, I have not “arrived.” God deals with me in this area on a regular basis. I am a VERY strong willed woman. I am extremely opinionated and full of fire! LOL! However, as I have been praying and studying this topic, I realize that GOD designed me to FOLLOW my husband’s lead. Yes, it is painful to let go. Thankfully it is only painful to my flesh.
I encourage you to PRAY about this. Ask God to SHOW you when you are not being a submitted wife. Trust me, He WILL! Boy will He ever! LOL!!!
Let your husband LEAD – Allow the man to make decisions without giving him grief at every turn. Or adding your two cents all the time.
Obviously if the issue is serious and you feel GOD leading you to express your disagreement with your husband’s decision…tell him. HOWEVER, failure or not…let him LEAD. God WILL take care of you. He WILL bless you for falling into YOUR ROLE.
When he expresses his feelings on a subject yield – This can be tough. Maybe your husband has different views financially or how you are raising your children, or whatever. Unless what they want goes against God’s Word, yield. It will save you stress and allow GOD to work in your husband.
Remember, we are their help meets. When we are NOT in our proper role we are not helping them. When we DO get in alignment with what God’s Word says, it softens our husbands to the voice of the Lord. They are able to hear His instructions more easily, because YOU have been helping keep the mental junk out of their minds.
Do not push issues – Whatever the issue; you want something, you want him to be a better spiritual leader, you want him to pray more, you want…you want…YOU want. Hush. Take it to Daddy. Leave it there. Be a help meet to your husband.
Take care of the things that matter to him said and unsaid – Clean the house. Make dinner regularly. Clean the house. Make sure he has time to unwind after work. Clean the House. Get dressed and make yourself look pretty for him daily. Clean the house. Make sure his things are organized and easy for him to find. Clean the house. Adapt yourself to your husband. Oh, and did I mention Clean the House! It DOES matter to them no matter what they say!
In closing I want to encourage you to do this week’s homework. You should do it every week. However, make a point to do it this week. In order to be a submitted wife, we must first be submitted to the Father. Your homework deals with that.
And, remember, forget what your Mom taught you (unless it was Biblically correct). Forget what the culture says. Forget what your SELFish mind says. Forget the movies, magazines, and bologna that the world teaches us about what a wife should be.
Forget all of it and remember this:
Then Peter and the apostles replied, We must obey God rather than men. ~ Acts 5:29
Daddy God, thank You for Your Word. I love You and want to live my life according to what You say and not man. I want to be all that You created me to be. I want to do nothing more than please you in all that I do and say. Please help me to be the wife that You have designed me to be. Please help me to understand my role as a wife and not rebel from it. Please help me learn to be a submitted daughter to You and a submitted wife to the husband that You gave me. I love You and thank You for all the many blessing You have given me. In Jesus Mighty Name, Amen.
I want you to take some serious prayer time this week. Ask Daddy where you need to improve as far as being a submitted wife. Ask Him to show you. Then, be willing to yield to Him and change your path.
Take the time this week to begin turning your will over to your husband’s. Listen closely to the things that deep down you know matter to him and do them. Allow him to lead from this moment on. You WILL be blessed for your obedience to GOD!
Memorize: Then Peter and the apostles replied, We must obey God rather than men. ~ Acts 5:29
Study the following Scriptures:
- Hebrews 12:9
- James 4:7
- Philippians 2:12-16
- Ephesians 5:24
Also, do any homework from Lesson A (last week) that you missed.
Have a blessed and SUBMITTED week!
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