A break up is just that, people break up. They live in separate homes, and move on with their lives. It’s isn't that simple when children are involved. You can’t walk away from your children or the responsibility you both have for their wellbeing. Children need stability and divorce doesn’t provide it, but as co-parents you can remain a united front for the sake of your children. You have to be prepared to set aside your differences and parent together. Most likely this won’t be intuitive to either of you and will take practice. A united front means your united in working together for the well being of your children. Ideas to Help Maintain a United Front for Divorced Moms: 1. Be consistent - Children need and crave consistency and structure. Don’t say one thing and do another. Agree on the rules together and stick to them. 2. Don’t bad mouth each other - One of the absolute worst things you can possibly do is degrade your children’s father in front of them. They won’t take a united … [Read more...]
Choose to be the Peacemaker
Therefore as chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourself with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love which binds them all together in perfect unity. - Colossians 3:12-14 When I became a single mom it felt as though a prize fighter knocked the wind out of me. This was not in the happy homemaker’s plan, but it was my reality. I adapted to single motherhood fairly quickly, but what took more time was developing a new relationship with the father of my daughter. Single moms must to embrace forgiveness, love, and unity if they plan on healing themselves and their family. The fracture that is caused by separation or divorce can be so painful that this may seem impossible, but remember with our Father all things are possible. When a relationship ends between two people there is a period of adjustment, … [Read more...]
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