My youngest daughter will be seven tomorrow and I find myself thinking about time. Where has it gone? Have I made the most of the time I have had? How much time do I have left with her before she begins a life of her own?
It is something we can and cannot control.
We cannot control how many days we get. However, we CAN control what we DO with the days we get.
Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. – Psalm 127:3 (amplified)
Our children are gifts from the Father. Our time is our gift to them. The time we invest in them and teach them the ways of the Lord is our gift back to the Father.
Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it. – Proverbs 22:6 (amplified)
I will be honest, ladies…
I find myself far too busy these days.
You see, when my first child was born, I did not work much. I didn’t start working from home regularly until she was older. My second child was different. I have worked out of my home her whole life. While I certainly do not think there is anything wrong with this, even in Proverbs 31, we see an example of a woman who worked hard. However, I feel that I have gotten out of balance in how I manage my time.
Look carefully then how you walk! Live purposefully and worthily, not as the unwise and witless, but as wise, sensible, intelligent people, Making the very most of the time [buying up each opportunity], because the days are evil. – Ephesians 5:15-16 (amplfied)
You see, working at home, helps provide additional income we need, allows me the opportunity to live up to my calling to reach Moms, and takes much time.
It can be very difficult to balance time when you work at home. It is not like punching a clock. The temptation to spend more time working is much more relevant since there is no time card. I find myself checking my emails one last time, tweeting too much, and wasting valuable time on what is least important.
Priorities have become unbalanced. God has made this clear to me. My priorities should be HIM, husband, children, others, me and THEN work.
He has been almost nagging me about the matter. LOL! He knows I am hard headed, so, He loves me enough to keep reminding me of what matters most.
What matters most are the gifts He gave me.
Many plans are in a man’s mind, but it is the Lord’s purpose for him that will stand. – Proverbs 19:21
I choose to follow the Will of my Father. I choose to use my time wisely and cherish every moment He gives me. I choose to put Him first and my family right under Him. I choose to balance my time and make it subject to the Will of God.
How about you?
Daddy God, thank You for loving me enough to remind me how precious the gifts of my children are. Thank you for reminding me of the limited time I get with them. Help me to use every opportunity and moment I have to enjoy them, love them, teach them and just be with them. Help me to pursue them and find creative ways to spend time with them. Help me to prioritize my life and never ever ever seek mammon above my family. I want to be a light to my children and let them know that I treasure them through the time that I give them. Thank YOU so much for my beautiful and healthy daughters! In Jesus Mighty Name, Amen!
Read and meditate on the following Scriptures. Pray about how you spend your time and ask God where you can be better balanced.
- Ecclesiastes 3 (whole chapter)
- Psalm 33:11
- Deuteronomy 4:29
- Proverbs 21:5
- Jeremiah 29:11
Memorize: Lord, make me to know my end and to appreciate the measure of my days–what it is; let me know and realize how frail I am, and how transient is my stay here. Behold, You have made my days as short as handbreadths, and my lifetime is as nothing in Your sight. Truly every man at his best is merely a breath! Selah! – Psalm 39:4-5 (amplified)
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Heather @ CSAHM says
Amen! I’m with you on this. I have realized that as my kiddos get older they need me less so that helps with the guilt of feeling like I need to be there all the time, because we don’t. But I have also been more intentional about putting work aside and just being there for them. It is about balance for sure. ((hugs))
Tanya (rockinmom) says
Wonderful post. It reached out to my heart as I have had similar feelings lately. Today, my baby girl, my only daughter, my second child is 13 years old. THIRTEEN. I feel sad, excited scared and so much more. All at one time. Like you, I have worked at home her entire life. She was 5 weeks old when I started my In home daycare business. I have some quilt about that. A lot actually. I feel like I missed out on something with her.
I have to say, that having teenagers has actually made me realize that our children do not need us less like we may think. They need us MORE. Just in different ways. We don’t have to get up with them early on the Saturday mornings to make sure they stay safe. We do not have to lay out clothes for them anymore. As much as I would like to still be able to that sometimes. ;)
However, I think our older children need our prayers, our guidance, our acceptance more than they *wanted* it when they were younger. Older kids are so needy for acceptance and understanding.
Anyway, sorry I babbled on like that. I am feeling a bit weepy and wordy today as I work on accepting my baby growing up into a woman. ;)
Tanya (rockinmom) says
*guilt* not quilt and sorry for all the grammar and spelling errors. I hit publish on accident.
Tanya, I have a 13 year old boy, 3 year old boy, and 1 year old baby girl. You are right they need us a lot emmotionally at 13 and then on until college. Lots of prayer, planning, supporting, allowing them to make desciaions and grow up. For me that requires a lot of prayer and conversations with my Christian friends. The little ones need physical care, diapers and feeding and some play time with me. I am sure you did that in your in home daycare. They do not need your every moment when young just consistent intentional care and training. The older ones need us mentally and emotionally available when they are. Living a balance God centered life allows good things to flow from you to your children naturally.
I just needed this lesson today. I’ve been struggling with spending enough time with my 3 year old daughter and 4 month old son now that I’ve returned to work full time; and not only the time but the energy and patience. I printed the prayer for my night stand. What a good reminder of who we need to go to for the things in our lives that concern us. I know what God wants for me. I just keep forgetting to ask.