When it comes to marriage, a definite paradigm shift needs to take place in the “all about me” line of thinking that at times beleaguers many of us in our human selfishness. If our marital mindset centers on how our spouse should meet our needs and be a provider of our happiness instead of how we can serve our husband in love and strive to meet his needs, chances are there will be discord looming around our relationship. Hoping to receive something from our spouse, especially when we think it and don’t communicate it, may lead to unmet expectations that will surely leave disappointment in their wake. For my husband and me, we entered our marriage covenant convinced that our love story was unique in that we would be immune to communication issues, intimacy struggles and disagreements over finances, etc. From our perspective, the “love” we shared was different from others and we could not fathom the idea of anything coming between us. We didn’t discuss how our marriage was going to … [Read more...]