Drama, drama, drama.
It’s amazing how it permeates the world of women. It seems like in today’s reality TV culture it’s not only permitted but often encouraged. I had hoped that once I left high school behind so also would the cliques, the gossip, the slander, the put downs be left behind. And yet I see and hear of grown women participating in these things. Ladies–we’re moms for goodness sakes!!!! We are to be role models to our children-is that what you really want them to grow up acting like?
If you think I’m exaggerating the matter let’s look and see what the Bible has to say about busybodies:
But let none of you suffer as a murderer, or as a thief, or as an evildoer, or as a busybody in other men’s matters. – 1 Peter 4:15
And withal they learn to be idle, wandering about from house to house; and not only idle, but tattlers also and busybodies, speaking things which they ought not. – 1 Titus 5:13
In the first verse a busybody is listed in the same sentence as a murderer, thief, and evildoer! Obviously God considers this to be a pretty serious offense! Since lately I always seem to be the neutral party or outsider on these drama laced situations I’d like to give some hopefully helpful tips and guidance on how to avoid busybodies and the hurt and drama they bring!
First, choose your friends wisely–this includes “Facebook friends”! If there is someone you know is prone to drama then keep them at an arms length. A huge red flag to watch for is if someone is constantly trying to gossip to you and/or seems to really enjoy cutting down and making fun of others. What makes you think they don’t do the same thing about you behind your back? Avoid these people in your life! Not only will they try to suck you into the gossip and drama it will often backfire in your face when they turn on you.
In the unfortunate event that you do find yourself the victim of drama and gossip the best thing you can possibly do is to quietly cut ties. I’ve seen cases where the victim just makes the matter a million times worse by lashing out (via facebook status!!!) on how the world is now against her and on and on. Without even realizing it she is just throwing a big bunch of fuel on the fire and making the drama and gossip ramp up to the next level. Don’t make that mistake!
Next time, we’ll talk about the other side of the coin-and how not to be or become a busybody ourselves! I will share how I caught myself doing this, and what steps I’ve taken to make sure I never do it again!
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